PinkBerry (original poster new member #85144) posted at 12:27 AM on Thursday, September 26th, 2024
Started with the kitchen to reclaim it from the cluttered mess it was. He just liked everything on the kitchen benches, I like bare surfaces with only things like the kettle and toaster on display. Bought myself a cute set.
The packing of his things is for my benefit, so I don't have to look at them and be reminded of memories. It's good of me, right, to wrap glasses and plates and coffee cups and put them in moving boxes.
I've decided that as he has not taken any accountability or apologised for or admitted to what he's done - that the boxes will not be labelled with contents, and any matching anything (shoes, cutlery, for example) will not be packed in the same box. They'll be spread out throughout all the unlabelled boxes.
Just think of it like those mystery boxes with cosmetics that you don't know what you're gonna get.
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 2:03 AM on Thursday, September 26th, 2024
Glad you get to make your space yours again. Why can't you make packing fun? LOL. When I was younger, I used to roll up my socks and put them in my cups & glasses to pad them to keep them from breaking. I'd use my towels to wrap around plates. Reminds me of my teens.
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 3:26 AM on Thursday, September 26th, 2024
Reclaiming your space is powerful. Rearrange the furniture, add a new rug and some fresh pillows on your bed. Make it feel like YOU.
And yeah, think of the fun he’ll have unpacking.
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
OhItsYou ( member #84125) posted at 6:14 AM on Thursday, September 26th, 2024
After you are finished packing each box, launch it at the nearest wall. It’ll help settle the contents neatly.
BluerThanBlue ( member #74855) posted at 7:04 PM on Thursday, September 26th, 2024
I've decided that as he has not taken any accountability or apologised for or admitted to what he's done - that the boxes will not be labelled with contents, and any matching anything (shoes, cutlery, for example) will not be packed in the same box. They'll be spread out throughout all the unlabelled boxes.
As someone who both hates packing and unpacking, and has trouble finding things, sorting through these boxes is how I imagine Hell.
PinkBerry, I can't think of any revenge that could top this.
BW, 40s
Divorced WH in 2015; now happily remarried
I edit my comments a lot for spelling, grammar, typos, etc.
PinkBerry (original poster new member #85144) posted at 8:15 AM on Monday, October 7th, 2024
I continue to pack his things and feel like I’m getting somewhere now.
Almost 3 weeks ago I mailed him some paperwork he needed to be able to advertise and sell something.
This morning I get a text ‘thank you for sending the paperwork’.
Hmmmmm. Is this a hoovering attempt? I didn’t respond.
EllieKMAS ( member #68900) posted at 12:59 AM on Tuesday, October 8th, 2024
You are far kinder than I am. I did pack his breakables in bubble wrap and box them, but everything else went in a pile on the garage floor, and I mean everything - shoes, clothes, socks, towels, blankets, books, tools, everything. A pile that I lasagna-style layered with ultra fine holographic glitter. A 5 lb tub of it. Best $75 I ever spent
"No, it's you mothafucka, here's a list of reasons why." – Iliza Schlesinger
"The love that you lost isn't worth what it cost and in time you'll be glad that it's gone." – Linkin Park
PinkBerry (original poster new member #85144) posted at 1:06 AM on Tuesday, October 8th, 2024
EllieKMAS I like the way you work.
My ulterior motive is that I don't want him lingering around my home - as soon as he has a new place and can move, I want the stuff gone in one day. Either I would have to hover around the removal company while they packed his stuff (whose coffee cup, whose books etc), or him skulking around my home.
So to get around that - Here's your packed things I prepared earlier.
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 5:36 AM on Tuesday, October 8th, 2024
EllieKMas is awesome with her responses. Glitter is great because it gets over everything.
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21