Asterisk (original poster member #86331) posted at 1:20 PM on Thursday, November 6th, 2025
What I thought I needed and wanted when I signed up here at Surviving Infidelity 5 months ago tomorrow as Asterisk, was a place to freely and openly regurgitate my mind. A virtual haven, where I would cause no harm to my wife or be harshly, or unduly judged for vomiting, long held in, curdled feelings and self-abasing thoughts. And I have done so, too much so, and yet I have been warmly received without the negative judgements that outsiders would tend to think or state.
But what I have come to understand is that, as important as it is to be free to hurl, what I truly needed was to want the gift of collective wisdom that I have so graciously been given by all of you. Even among those who I have not been any direct posting and commenting with, I have, as well, gained great insight into infidelity issues and how to and not to navigate my own journey. Because of all of you, I no longer feel so damn alone. I appreciate every one of you.
Asterisk
Wedding:1973
WW's Affair: 1986-1988
D-Day: June 1991
Reconciliation in process for 32 years
Living in a marriage and with a wife that I am proud of: 52 years
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 5:46 PM on Thursday, November 6th, 2025
** Member to Member **
You're on a web forum, Asterisk. You can't hurl without eliciting responses. 
You've written a lot of thought-provoking stuff, and I'm grateful, 'cause you've helped me on my own quest, a quest I can't even name or describe.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
