leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 5:52 PM on Saturday, August 23rd, 2025
I don’t have to deal with the tension of being in the same house as her.
Ah, peace...blessed, blessed peace. It's so nice not to have the drama llama in the house.
Have fun making the space your own.
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
Copingmybest (original poster member #78962) posted at 1:10 PM on Tuesday, September 9th, 2025
Dissolution court date: October 16, 2025!!!!!
Farther out than I was hoping, but I at least see the train station on the horizon. It will be here before you know it and my new life can officially begin.
Thank you to all my supportive brothers and sisters on this forum.
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 2:25 PM on Tuesday, September 9th, 2025
Wow! Just over a month away, so not too bad. Here's to crossing the finish line!
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 2:42 PM on Tuesday, September 9th, 2025
It really will be here before you know it. Keep practicing self-care and expect some tough moments still. The roller coaster is winding down, but not quite over yet.
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
NoThanksForTheMemories ( member #83278) posted at 5:13 PM on Tuesday, September 9th, 2025
Your finish line is in sight! I've been warned that almost everyone gets sad when the moment arrives. Let us know how it goes for you. I'm about to schedule consultations with mediators, so I'm barely over the starting line.
WS had a 3 yr EA+PA from 2020-2022, and an EA 10 years ago (different AP). Dday1 Nov 2022. Dday4 Sep 2023. False R for 2.5 months. 30 years together. Separating.
Copingmybest (original poster member #78962) posted at 5:41 PM on Tuesday, September 9th, 2025
Honestly folks, the last 20 months of therapy, and an honest review of our marital past, and I truly believe her Hearst hasn’t been in the relationship for a very long time, maybe even 15-20 years. I discovered her secretly talking to old boyfriends as far back as 2004, 11 years ago she was sharing marital problems with men from her graduating class. Believe she got bored with the marriage a very long time ago and her heart just wasn’t in it. I believe she mostly stayed for the kids and for all the perks she got being married to me. Someone that dishonest really is such a turn off that I will be happy to be done with her and look forward to maybe meeting someone new who is both emotionally mature and respectful of me. I’m not sad that it’s about over, I’m sad that I put so much time into a one sided marriage.
