NoThanksForTheMemories ( member #83278) posted at 10:53 PM on Thursday, July 2nd, 2026
Seconding what Letmebefrank said. Be honest with your sisters and be complete, so you know that they are in full possession of the facts. Those facts include your feelings - I think it's natural for you to want close family to take your side on this. Isn't that kind of the point of family, to have your back even if they have to make a small sacrifice?
With friends, I don't expect them to take sides, though I might choose to stop being as friendly with them if they continue to socialize with my ex. With family (especially close family), I apply a different standard. Cutting off family is a lot harder, and I'd want to give them a chance to make a choice before I cut them off.
WS had a 3 yr EA+PA from 2020-2022, and an EA 10 years ago (different AP). Dday1 Nov 2022. Dday4 Sep 2023. False R for 2.5 months. 30 years together. Divorcing.
Lurker89 (original poster new member #83259) posted at 7:25 AM on Friday, July 3rd, 2026
That's probably why i had some anxiety about telling her, since she is family I probably couldn't deal with it if her reaction to the choices made would be disregarded.
Lil'sis is aware of the situation. I was planning on inviting her over and tell her in person but i chickened out and sent her a wall of text on the matter. I'll still see her today, but it felt really good to know that she now has the relevant info and can make choices based on that. I did shed a few tears of relief when se validated what i was feeling on the matter.
I think I'll let my big sister also read the same textwall so both of them are on the same page on the matter.
