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I took a swipe at my husband the other day in response to a comment he made. It just came out and I was surprised at myself how easily the words just formed. I was sarcastic. I suppose his comment hit my button.

He mentioned something about infidelity and I said sarcastically ´you tried that already, and it did not work out for you did it?´

Does anyone else have swipes to share?

SOOOO many times I wanted to fire away with a snarky comment but I just remind myself that it may make me feel good in the moment but doesn't help in the long run

So many have come out. And I have been surprised many times how crass and nasty I can be in the heat of the moment. Here are a couple:

1. ‘I have told you my number 1 requirement from you is better communication, oh other than fucking other women’.

2. ‘Maybe you would read my messages or emails properly if I attached pictures of boobs’.

3. ‘Do you like what I’m wearing? I mean I know it’s not the slutty dresses you usually like’

4. ‘What was your end game? Start dating her, go and meet her Mum and Dad, I mean at least you’d be close in age’

And I’ll stop there. I’m not proud of what I say sometimes but I know it must come from deep down rooted anger because I don’t usually go around talking like that 😂

Not a comment, but an action:

A couple of days after DDay, I turned onto our street and saw my H crossing to get to our neighbor's house. I threw the car into neutral and revved the engine. He almost shit himself. It was glorious! I still chuckle about that.

I don't think my swipes at xWS ever stopped. He was never remorseful though and put me through multiple D-Days and False R.

I also was not cut out for R.

In the beginning of the Reconciliation stage, I brought up every negative thing he told me about myself during his affair.

Not so proud moments include me saying things like "why do you want to Reconcile? You said XYZ".

I brought up how he said I never loved him, he’s been unhappy for years, I never apologize etc.

I did not make Reconciliation easy that’s for sure.

[This message edited by The1stWife at 5:50 PM, Tuesday, October 22nd]

Raises hand to admit guilt !

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One of my favorites was early in the process she was still being defensive. She said "I know I screwed up". I said "No honey you definitely screwed down". 🤣🤣🤣

I haven't taken a swipe at her in a long time. Hard to remember the details of some of the swipes I took in the first couple years, but I definitely took them.

I admit I can be a real bitch when I am angry - no filter - I say the first thing that comes to mind. The first year there were a lot of swipes.

We were watching a show where a husband asks out a women shortly after his wife's death. My husband said "His wife has only been dead a week and already he is asking out another women." My reply, "At least he waited until she was dead to start dating."

Shortly after D-day a commercial came on for the restaurant where they would go on their "dates" and he commented that their food was crap. I looked at him like he was crazy and said "I guess it's not the food that's important when you know you'll get fucked after the meal."

Not proud - but c'mon - you'd have to be a saint not to say anything when they say something so absurd