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@thighswideshut. The shock of discovery. I received a phone call from my wife’s roommate on her work trip, letting me know that she was cheating right then with a coworker. I knew it was going on in real time, but the wife wouldn’t respond to phone calls. I was states away, just leaving voice mails while she cheated with a coworker while the rest of her work group goggled in shock at her behavior. Hard to describe the sensation of knowing that your wife is cheating right then and being powerless to do or say anything.

NO SOLICITING.

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This is my first post and let me start by saying "Thank You!" to all those here sharing their experiences. I think I have some appreciation now for how a freshly gutted fish feels.

#5 - This is a struggle for me. As I said in my story, I am a man with a particular set of skills and the urge to bring the house down on these two is overwhelming. It is my goal to reconcile so restraint will be required and to be honest, a little separation gives me the opportunity to exercise my craft with some impunity.

This is so helpful. Thank you

This is a list of everything I failed to do after DDay fifteen years ago.

What I would love to read is a similar list for a BS who was all at sea on DDay and got everything wrong, and is realising this some years later.

I would think a feature of SI is that people only search for it after their own personal DDay: its advice comes too late. Of course, some may do the right thing of their own volition but most, I suspect, will make fundamental mistakes.

I think I make every mistake possible.