The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 12:37 AM on Sunday, October 20th, 2024
I鈥檓 glad that your update is somewhat positive and hopeful for a successful Reconciliation.
As I posted early on, the 馃毄is that they still work together.
I understand the job situation, but you need to come first. I hope you know that.
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 10 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
WoodThrush2 ( new member #85057) posted at 1:45 AM on Sunday, October 20th, 2024
Thank you for the update LostSquid. I don't understand the job he holds, but that sounds like a mess. I would really recommend 2 things ....read Betrayal Bind concurrently and talk about it. Second .....dig into Jake Porters videos and if you can, his webinars.
Well ...a third....really seek God. He knows how to help you navigate this. I truly hope and pray your husband is touched and becomes broken in heart so he can start to truly understand what he has done....and help start making amends and showing empathy. Keep us updated. Don't give up...the one who can still the storm can change hearts and lead you to healing.
WoodThrush2 ( new member #85057) posted at 1:45 AM on Sunday, October 20th, 2024
Thank you for the update LostSquid. I don't understand the job he holds, but that sounds like a mess. I would really recommend 2 things ....read Betrayal Bind concurrently and talk about it. Second .....dig into Jake Porters videos and if you can, his webinars.
Well ...a third....really seek God. He knows how to help you navigate this. I truly hope and pray your husband is touched and becomes broken in heart so he can start to truly understand what he has done....and help start making amends and showing empathy. Keep us updated. Don't give up...the one who can still the storm can change hearts and lead you to healing.
LostSquid (original poster new member #85084) posted at 12:05 AM on Monday, October 21st, 2024
Well ...a third....really seek God. He knows how to help you navigate this. I truly hope and pray your husband is touched and becomes broken in heart so he can start to truly understand what he has done....and help start making amends and showing empathy. Keep us updated. Don't give up...the one who can still the storm can change hearts and lead you to healing.
I have been spending many, many afternoons on my face on the floor in prayer and my Bible, many 3ams with my hands on my sleeping husband praying over him, and many days with music from artists like Lauren Daigle in my ears, on the TV, or playing somewhere in the background. God is the God of possible. I am trusting Him in this situation. And, slowly.... slowly... I am seeing the answers to my prayers. I know my Abba has me no matter the outcome. Although my husband is struggling to know why God didn't answer when he was desperate and to understand why God would let this happen (to break us and rebuild or break us and destroy), I fully believe that He is using this opportunity to teach me about trust, what love *really* is, and to pull closer to Him.
The job situation is just... a mess. I know that the answer is no to job #2. I know the best answer is a new place. I just don't know if it's possible. Praying over it every day.
Thank you for letting me ramble.
