CarolinaGrace ( new member #80480) posted at 4:28 PM on Friday, October 18th, 2024
"Gently, there's no magic. I know that's hard for you to believe, but believing you can heal - with or without your WS - is the first step in healing. You deserve better, and you can almost certainly get it, but you have to take action on your own behalf."
Sisoon, on the contrary, I am not delusional about my situation and the future. Not everything people say on here needs to be taken so literally. I am not sitting around waiting for someone to wave a magic wand and make it all go away. We're all pretty realistic about out situations but the path to R or D looks different for everyone as well as the length of time it takes each individual to get to a point of feeling good about R or making the decision to end the marriage.
Not friends, not enemies. Just strangers with memories.
survrus ( member #67698) posted at 11:47 PM on Friday, October 18th, 2024
FC,
Did You get tested for STDs if you have one and you didn't cheat it's strong evidence
3 years is a long affair to believe there wasn't some kind of intimate contact.
An impotent man can perform oral on a woman. Perhaps your WW believes only intercourse is sex?
Did you expose OM to his W or SO, did you confront him and get his side of the story?
Write out a list of possible sexual acts kissing, touching, etc, etc and have your WW write down Yes or No then take her for a polygraph with a less unwilling professional.
What were the polygraph questions when she went?
