Topic is Sleeping.
Decorum ( member #47744) posted at 8:49 PM on Thursday, December 26th, 2024
Looking back do you see any red flags about her character or personality you may have ignored as you got to know her before the infidelity?
JimBetrayed62 ( member #72275) posted at 1:09 AM on Monday, January 20th, 2025
I would just echo everyone’s advice - especially talk to a lawyer, gather evidence, do the 180 - and absolutely do not trust her to treat you with any honor or kindness. She was cold-hearted enough to break your heart by cheating - believing she will treat you well in a divorce is frankly irrational. This doesn’t mean you have to be an ass - but you do need to realize she is completely untrustworthy at this point in time .
And tell her family what’s going on. And research the OM on Facebook or whatever - if he owns a house look at tax records and see if wife is on it. Informing the OM’s wife is necessary not only for the OM’s wife who needs to know what’s going on - but typically blows up the affair relationship - it may be the only thing that wakes her out of the affair fog. You may not want her back, but at least it deprives her of her favorite drug and gives her a chance to live in Reality and maybe for the first time cause some much-needed introspection.
I’m sorry man. This is a brutal thing to experience. God bless you.
Me: BSHer: FWSDDay1 - Sept. 2004 DDay 2 - Dec. 2005 4-year LTA They were "soulmates"
Topic is Sleeping.
