My now wife has seizures. Same history as your wife, head trauma when she was a baby.
My wife will go years without a seizure, but when certain cofactors come into alignment, she will have a breakthrough seizure.
Stress is definitely a factor and when combined with interruption of sleep, she will have a seizure.
My ExWW experienced extreme stress post D-day which caused a huge Shingles outbreak and other health complications. We tend to focus on what the BS goes through here on SI, but it’s no picnic being a WS.
Oh wow, it definitely sounds like you have a very good idea of what we're dealing with right now. You're right. While being a BS sucks, it's the worst experience I've ever had in 55 years, it's no picnic for a remorseful WS either. While I'm not saying it or threatening to, she's terrified I'm going to leave her now, and she's waiting for the day I go somewhere and simply don't come back home.
If my current wife was in your WW’s shoes, she would definitely have breakthrough seizures. It sucks because the Neurologists will just increase her meds-dosages until it starts having noticeable neurological effects, decreased cognition, lethargy, etc., which makes reconciliation more difficult I would imagine.
Yes, I'm sure this situation is what triggered this episode.
I would do what you can to decrease stress, increase sleep, reduce alcohol consumption, maintain stable blood sugar-diet, all to stabilize her seizure threshold, avoid oscillations in her seizure threshold.
-Stress
-Sleep
-Alcohol
-Stable Diet-blood sugar.
-Strict medication regimen
Easier said than done when trying to recover from mutual infidelity trauma.
Yeah, easier said than done, but I am trying to do my best. I'm calm, I don't yell, flip out, or put her down, tho I do dwell and ruminate from time to time still, and it's rough on her. I'm in therapy now tho, and she starts therapy tomorrow. Her sleep has been good, and her diet has improved. Her diet turned to crap and she had gained a fair amount of weight over the last few years, but in the last few months since d day she's improved her diet, become more active, and dropped about 25 lbs.
I appreciate the feedback and tips from someone who experiences something similar. Thanks.
[This message edited by Pogre at 3:39 PM, Tuesday, September 9th]
