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Hi

Some of you may know me, I was cheated on 10 years ago, tried to reconcile but failed, she ghosted me. You can read my recent topic summersing my story.

Today's topic is not about me, its about my colleague at work. She's been trying hard to get me to have sex with her. I refused because she's married and her husband is a soldier in another country now.

She occasionally will too close to me, touch me, I refuse and give her advise. That this is wrong.

Today, she came showing me her boyfriend the affair partner, yes she has a husband, boyfriend and still wants me too.

So she showed me photo of boyfriend's wife and then showing photo of herself proud that she is prettier than affair partner wife. Insinuating it's of course affair partner loves her.

Then she said but her husband is nice but she love the affair partner. She said her marriage is too long 20 plus years and there is no fire , but affair there is fire excitement etc.

Then suddenly she lift up her top showing me her body. Then jumped on me hugging wrapping her legs around me with her face right on front of mine.

I refused any of this. It gets worse, now her daughter and affair guy son likes each other. Affair partner son tells this lady that hid father is happy with her. This so messed up!!!

Bottom line I told her cut ties, I told her if you see me as a friend then truth is she has affair fog, told her you will lose your family and husband and lose respect from affair partner and I frankly told her AP will call you bitch after sometime and will doubt you too.

Told her cut ties and behave and keep your family. She kept quiet and little uncomfortable I said I'm not going to make you feel better this is wrong in any culture and any religion and even if you're atheist!

Truth is physically she's beautiful but it is just so disgusting I can't do this to another man, I know this shit hurts nearly cost me my sanity.

I'm disgusted beyond words, I feel I'm see my x true color through her.

Have you talked to HR? This is harassment.

Does her husband know? He deserves to.

You should save evidence of her harassment and your objections to it. Report her to HR if it doesn't stop. Be sure you have the evidence because it's almost certain that she will lie and try to blame you.

Thank you for your input. She's in different department so I've been leaving work early to avoid seeing her at end of the day. I go work bit earlier so finish earlier.

I'm not even thinking of HR, they won't believe me, my ex did so much damaged I nearly lost my job when I went to confront her at work as we work for the same employer, she saud loads of shit that she is fearful for her life etc, called HR reported me few times as well as the police but police dis nothing they knew it was all BS.

Later while work investigate this between me and my x I said I only try to talk to her as I got 10 years worth of affairs and items need sorting, she just ghosted me I wasn't even sure if she was safe. Guess what , in her statement to HR she mentioned her colleague AND FRIEND MR... whom I never knew existd، she contacted him to tell him I went to talk to her, he advised her to take time off etc. So she must have had something with him.

Now imagine I go report this.

Her husband doesn't know, I'm just disgusted sometimes.

You're right I must be careful.

I can understand how disgusting this all might be to you, and it definitely would be to me.

I can only suggest how I would handle this situation, and this advice takes into consideration that your last experience with infidelity caused issues with your present job. Unless you are willing to change jobs or risk this one... well... I would try to distance yourself as much as possible from this issue.
Frankly – seeing as this woman is in a different department – I would do my very best to ignore and avoid her. I would not take breaks in the same area she might be in, I would not take the same elevator, I would not go to work events she was in, or if I had to, I would not be in her vicinity. If this isn’t working then look at relocating/transferring to another site or department, or explaining your issue with your direct supervisor.

If I need to interact I would do so in public spaces. If at a meeting I would try to do so online, or leave the door to the conference room open. Be civil but make it very clear to her that you don’t have any interest whatsoever in any social interaction beyond what the job requires.

Her husband... Well... I think this might be the typical put the mask on yourself before helping others. You are too fresh and too scared right now. I honestly think you need to put yourself in first place, and allow her to wreck her own marriage. If she’s so blatant that she’s sharing with you she has a lover (as if asking you if you want to be next in line...) and flaunts her body... she will self-destruct soon enough irrespective of if you tell him or not.