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"Hope that clears things up for you guys."

It honestly makes it less clear.

One of the things that I have noticed about you (across various accounts) is that you often speak of a precious inner child of yours that needs protecting. Is this part and parcel to this personality fragmentation?

One of the things that I have noticed about you (across various accounts) is that you often speak of a precious inner child of yours that needs protecting. Is this part and parcel to this personality fragmentation?

The inner child is a thing that is central to many therapeutical methods that deal with trauma healing.

I believe schema and lowen are some thought there may be others.

Basically your childhood is the period where you form yourself as the person you are today. Traumatic experiences shape what coping mechanisms you might develop as an adult.

Some are better than others in dealing with trauma and some are dysfunctional.

Trauma is tricky and although it can be healed, if is not we try to balance it through coping mechanisms, it’s then about luck and life circumstances if those mechanisms work well and resolve the trauma or they become emanations of trauma and the coping mechanisms are created to justify your dysfunction to yourself (basically reinforcing the trauma rather than resolving it).

Addressing the child is like addressing the you before and during the early trauma.
Emotional events don’t fade, they are carved in our psyche wether consciously or subconsciously, we bring them along. Trauma is a deep and scarring emotional experience.
If " the child" can feel safe about the things that caused the trauma, the trauma itself can heal, improve or completely disappear.

I think it’s that child she is addressing in her process.

Thanks Pogre 💙

CantBeMeEither

It honestly makes it less clear.

Well, I tried my best.

One of the things that I have noticed about you (across various accounts) is that you often speak of a precious inner child of yours that needs protecting. Is this part and parcel to this personality fragmentation?

Maybe I'm reading too far into it, but I don't really like the way you keep adding "precious" to "inner child. I'm getting a tone of suspicion or condescension... All children are precious, including our inner children (yes, you have one too. Whether he's hurt or not.)

As Backfromthestorm was getting at and according to my recent reading on the subject, all children start out with fragmented personalities-- sort of toggling between different need states, before they start developing more complex thoughts, emotions, memories, and experiences, and begin integrating them into one personality. Sometimes people reach later childhood (6-9+ years of age) without having fully integrated, which is referred to as structural dissociation, due to trauma and competing needs... I'm not diagnosing myself by any means, but I see a lot of similarities between myself and those who have OSDD (Like DID but without amnesia and fugue states.)

But to answer your question, yes, my committee and inner child are most likely interrelated.

[This message edited by GotTheMorbs at 12:45 PM, Thursday, June 11th]