Cooley2here ( member #62939) posted at 7:23 PM on Sunday, February 8th, 2026
I’m going to look at this as an addiction. When I think about someone is talented as the singer at James Taylor, I’m so puzzled at someone with that much intellect falling back into an addiction. He was off drugs for 20 years and then went back on them. He eventually cleaned up again and has gone on with his life. On the other hand, Philip Seymour Hoffman went back and it killed him. I will bet neither one of those men would be able to tell you what drove them to do something so stupid. I look at what your husband has done is just as stupid. There’s something missing in him, not in you, not in your marriage. Whatever it is, he needs to fix it. In the meantime, you can look at nesting I think that’s the name of it. It’s where you have an efficiency apartment and you at home one week, off one week, home one week. The weeks that you are home he’s in the nest. That way, the children never leave and they have access to their parents for seven days at the time which is really nice for them.
When things go wrong, don’t go with them. Elvis
